Saturday, September 24, 2011
To love, or not to love...
The other day, I was flipping through the channels and happened upon a show called "Tough Love" on VH1. I don't usually like this kind of show but something about it kept me watching the series marathon that was on. Ended up learning some things about myself and my outlook on relationships. I'm not sure if I should be happy to have this newfound knowledge or concerned that I learned it from a reality show on a music channel!
Love & Appreciation
My Uncle Tim passed away unexpectedly in December 2010. It had been years...decades, really...since I'd seen him but I was lucky enough to have reconnected with him via email and Facebook earlier in the year.
Tim was injured in a work accident many years ago which left him paralyzed and forced him to rely on others. I was told of times that he seemed to have all but given up or didn't care. He lived a pretty rough life. I can only imagine what it's like to have to be so dependent on others every day of your life.
But then he got a laptop and it was as if we were witnessing a new person being born. I still smile when I think about how avid a Facebook user he was. Not posting the mundane junk that nobody cares about - he made you think and laugh and enjoy having this tool that allows people to stay connected, despite being thousands of miles away. It makes my heart feel good to know that he had the opportunity to enjoy what ended up being the last part of his short life.
RIP, Tim - you are loved very much and greatly missed.
Take this opportunity to tell someone close to you how much you love and appreciate them.
Tim was injured in a work accident many years ago which left him paralyzed and forced him to rely on others. I was told of times that he seemed to have all but given up or didn't care. He lived a pretty rough life. I can only imagine what it's like to have to be so dependent on others every day of your life.
But then he got a laptop and it was as if we were witnessing a new person being born. I still smile when I think about how avid a Facebook user he was. Not posting the mundane junk that nobody cares about - he made you think and laugh and enjoy having this tool that allows people to stay connected, despite being thousands of miles away. It makes my heart feel good to know that he had the opportunity to enjoy what ended up being the last part of his short life.
RIP, Tim - you are loved very much and greatly missed.
Take this opportunity to tell someone close to you how much you love and appreciate them.
Sunday, September 18, 2011
What I've Learned
(previously written, never posted)
2010 was a very lesson-filled year for me. What I learned during that year was more than I've probably learned my entire life; certainly more than what I've learned in the several years prior.
I'm ashamed, yet kind of proud, to admit that one of the most important things I learned was that I am no better than anyone else. Who am I to judge?
I learned that the ONLY person I need to justify anything to is myself. I don't mind opinions but the decisions are my own to make and I am capable of making them.
I learned that it really is okay to make mistakes and wrong decisions. It's also okay to change my mind. I mean really, who gives a crap if I lived in three different states all in one year? I was fine with my decisions at the times that I made them and that's really all that matters.
I learned that even the smallest gesture can sure change a person's attitude and perspective. We should all remember to never underestimate how much of an impact a simple and kind gesture can have on another person.
I learned that some peoples' outlooks on life are just plain shitty and there is absolutely nothing that anyone else can say or do to change that; the change must come from within. I also learned that it does me no good to feed in to that same outlook.
I learned that I am capable and intelligent and even though I don't know everything...I have it in me to do whatever I set my mind to! Moving forward, I will not allow anyone else to make me feel otherwise.
I learned that it's not my place to tell someone else's story; to share things that happened in their lives. Doing so is nothing more than gossiping. Admittedly... this is a work in progress, but I'm trying.
I learned that I need to worry less about what people might say. If what I'm doing or saying is not against the law, offensive or just plain wrong - who freaking cares.
And most of all, I learned that sometimes we just need to sit back and enjoy the ride. We only get one chance at this thing called life!
2010 was a very lesson-filled year for me. What I learned during that year was more than I've probably learned my entire life; certainly more than what I've learned in the several years prior.
I'm ashamed, yet kind of proud, to admit that one of the most important things I learned was that I am no better than anyone else. Who am I to judge?
I learned that the ONLY person I need to justify anything to is myself. I don't mind opinions but the decisions are my own to make and I am capable of making them.
I learned that it really is okay to make mistakes and wrong decisions. It's also okay to change my mind. I mean really, who gives a crap if I lived in three different states all in one year? I was fine with my decisions at the times that I made them and that's really all that matters.
I learned that even the smallest gesture can sure change a person's attitude and perspective. We should all remember to never underestimate how much of an impact a simple and kind gesture can have on another person.
I learned that some peoples' outlooks on life are just plain shitty and there is absolutely nothing that anyone else can say or do to change that; the change must come from within. I also learned that it does me no good to feed in to that same outlook.
I learned that I am capable and intelligent and even though I don't know everything...I have it in me to do whatever I set my mind to! Moving forward, I will not allow anyone else to make me feel otherwise.
I learned that it's not my place to tell someone else's story; to share things that happened in their lives. Doing so is nothing more than gossiping. Admittedly... this is a work in progress, but I'm trying.
I learned that I need to worry less about what people might say. If what I'm doing or saying is not against the law, offensive or just plain wrong - who freaking cares.
And most of all, I learned that sometimes we just need to sit back and enjoy the ride. We only get one chance at this thing called life!
Knock, Knock - Anybody Home?
Two years and seven months since I've started this blog and here I am with a whopping two posts. Woo-hoo! Truth be told, there were about a dozen more that made it here and were quickly deleted; or were ready to go but deleted before being posted; or were just too lame to even be considered for posting. Sometimes I find it therapeutic to simply write even though nobody will see it. Pretty sure nobody but the spam bots and and hacker types are looking anyway. But I'm happy to see that my one faithful follower is still hanging on after 2 1/2 years, despite my lack of writing. Thanks, Bob! Sorry I haven't written :/
I've made a decision tonight to really give this the ol' college try and see if I can write enough semi-coherent stuff to put on here. You know, the schtick that doesn't leave you rolling your eyes wondering what the heck I just said. Trust me, my life is not exciting... so I'm pretty sure this blog won't be of interest to many.
While pondering "to write or not to write," I decided that I would be more likely to ... ahem ... actually post the stuff I write if I do it for my own selfish reasons rather than hoping it's something another person would like to read. I have written thousands upon thousands of words, many of which are sitting in my email drafts folder or notepad docs. Every day, I think of new things to write about. There's only so much you can say on Facebook, ya know!
In the end, I hope that posting my disordered musings stops my mind from racing so hard at night, as I try to fall asleep... and that you, dear reader, don't find yourself drifting off to sleep while reading them.
I've made a decision tonight to really give this the ol' college try and see if I can write enough semi-coherent stuff to put on here. You know, the schtick that doesn't leave you rolling your eyes wondering what the heck I just said. Trust me, my life is not exciting... so I'm pretty sure this blog won't be of interest to many.
While pondering "to write or not to write," I decided that I would be more likely to ... ahem ... actually post the stuff I write if I do it for my own selfish reasons rather than hoping it's something another person would like to read. I have written thousands upon thousands of words, many of which are sitting in my email drafts folder or notepad docs. Every day, I think of new things to write about. There's only so much you can say on Facebook, ya know!
In the end, I hope that posting my disordered musings stops my mind from racing so hard at night, as I try to fall asleep... and that you, dear reader, don't find yourself drifting off to sleep while reading them.
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